Thoughts on Singleness

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This is a topic that I have thought a lot about. One obvious reason is because I am single. I have read some really good articles in the past few months on this subject. I do not want to try and reinvent the wheel. Relevant Magazine has some good articles, and there are a myriad of other articles on the subject as well. I did a Bing search and came up with 10,800,000 results. Clearly, this is a well-canvassed topic.

I am an adult, I can handle some teasing when it comes to meeting someone. However, next time you hang out with your single friend, here are a few reminders:

1) We are not always ok with being single even if we say we are. For me personally, I am convinced that being single is God's plan for my life right now and I have made peace with that knowledge. This does not mean that I don't struggle with it occasionally.

2) It is hard to have people tell you you 'missed an opportunity with so and so', or that 'you should try harder' or 'do something different to meet new people'. While I understand that there are things I could be doing to expand my social life, I should not change who I am to meet someone, nor do I think it is healthy or respectful to put pressure on someone to change who they are to find a spouse.

3) Just because I am not dating or married does not mean I am somehow incomplete. I do not need a spouse to have loving relationships and enjoy life. There are a lot of reasons to enjoy being single, just as there are many reasons to enjoy married life.
As I said, this is a well-covered topic. I am thankful for friends and family who have encouraged me, and hope that my transparency on this subject is not taken the wrong way. I feel like I have been through a crucible of sorts over the last two years, and I have come out stronger for it. I have grown, I have learned to trust God and His plan for my life. It might not be what I was expecting, but I know that when I look back in ten years, I will be thankful, and I will see His plan was perfect and far better than anything I could have planned.
I have included a few links to some articles on being single:
5 Things to Do While You Wait on God 
Things It's ok to Feel When You're Single
When God Makes You Wait 

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